Episode 14: To Stress or Not to Stress
One of biggest influences on how we act and behave is our stress level (real or perceived). On this episode, we talk about stress and work…how it presents in you and in others, how it impacts your work, and ways to manage it so that it doesn’t lead you to becoming a jerk at work.
Don’t be afraid to have a conversation about stress; approach it with curiosity and consider the lens through which you are seeing the situation, your mood, where the other person is at, and timing
Figuring out how stress presents in you is an important part of learning how to manage it
There is an optimal level of stress; be able to differentiate between “growth” stress and “soul-sucking” stress
Don’t be a jerk to yourself!
Episode 13: Office Love
This is our first episode topic suggested by a few different listeners. They asked: How do you navigate a new romantic relationship between two existing employees?
In this episode, we talk about some of the things you should think about if you are dating someone at work or are considering dating someone at work, provide tips for keeping it professional, and share how to navigate a romantic relationship at work if you are the boss and someone has just disclosed to you that they are dating a co-worker.
Office relationships will happen. And, they can work.
Work is work so keep it professional. You are two independent people at work; not one unit.
Take a moment and really consider if it is worth it to engage in a romantic relationship at work.
Don’t have sex at work. Ever.
Episode 12: Motivate Me
In this episode, we explore the concept of career paths (how we move up, how we move sideways, and how we move out), the importance of coaching conversations, and the work that is required on your part if you want to make some changes in your career.
· Finding a career is more than a path laid out for you. It requires work, thought, and effort on your part.
· Personal development is your own responsibility. Don’t be lazy about it.
· Figure out what you value and know that it will change over time.
· Motivation is internal; it drives you from your core. Someone may motivate you in the moment but you are ultimately responsible for figuring out what motivates you.
· Dream big. If you want to be a French speaking obstetrician, go out and do that! Or HR. They are pretty much the same (you’ll need to listen for this to make sense).
Episode 11: Dress to Express, Not to Impress
What are you wearing to work tomorrow? Do you have body art? Piercings? Colourful hair? Does any of this matter in your workplace? Should any of this matter in your workplace? In this episode, we explore why we make the clothing choices that we make, how your appearance is a form of non-verbal communication, and whether or not how you show up to work matters.
Episode 10: Gratitudes, Vol. 1
On our episodes to date, we’ve talked about many frustrating and jerky behaviours that we’ve experienced and observed over the years as well as ways to not be a jerk at work. On today’s episode, we flip the switch on our learning approach and talk about the things (big and little) that we and others do at work that make work life that much better.
· Say thank you. And say it often.
· Really take the time to make someone feel seen and heard.
· Show up authentically and be the value that you want to see.
· Take time (daily, monthly, annually) to reflect on the people who have inspired, guided, and influenced how you work and show up to work. And let them know.
· Think about what gestures you do and can continue to do (big and small) that lift up and inspire others.
· Just walking the talk can inspire people. You never know what impact you could be leaving right now or who is looking to you for inspiration.
A huge shout out to Wendy Williams Watt and Big Love Ball for inviting us to record this special episode in their space. Wendy created this interactive art movement as an invitation to connect and to spread the message of inclusion and compassion. Thanks Wendy and Madison!
Episode 9: Minisode - 2019 Intentions
It’s a new year and for many (including us), it’s a time for reflection and goal setting. In our first ever minisode, we each talk about our “word for the year”; the word that represents how we will thrive in 2019. What’s your word for the year? What energizes you? We’d love to hear from you. Email us at email@example.com. Happy 2019!
Episode 8: The First Cut is the Deepest
Losing your job, especially for the first time, is one of the most stressful life events a person can go through. In this episode, we share our termination stories and talk about how you can move forward from something like this with dignity. We hope that should you ever find yourself in this situation, this episode will give you some new insight that will make this change a little easier to deal with.
Episode 7: Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Feel like you need a change of scenery? Tired of your current role? Annoyed by your boss? Maybe it’s time to consider a job change. For some, the idea of changing jobs is super exciting but for most, it’s pretty overwhelming. And, it’s a lot of work. It’s a lot of work to get the new job and it’s a lot of work to settle into a new job. On this episode, we talk about what you may want to consider if you’re thinking of changing jobs and how to feel okay about whatever decision you ultimately come to.
While there is no optimal length of time to stay in a job, it’s a good idea to do a self-check and evaluate your job situation every year.
The reasons why you stay in a job are likely to change over time. And, that’s okay.
Sometimes YOU are the only obstacle in the way of changing jobs.
Action triggers things. Sometimes it takes a move to make a bigger move.
Tara references the podcast, “Show Your Work,” with Duana and Lainey. We listen to this podcast…a lot! They make a great point about how it is sometimes necessary to make a move to level up. Making a move can shift how people see you and how you see yourself.
Episode 6: Why Didn’t Someone Tell Me This BEFORE I Became a Manager?
Are you a new manager (aka the boss)? Considering applying for a manager role? In this episode, we discuss the questions you should ask yourself before deciding if this is for you and we talk about some of the challenges you may face when making the move into a boss role. Through our stories, we hope to help you figure out if this is for you and if it is, how to make the move as smooth as possible.
Know that being the boss will involve “HR” work. You need to be okay with that.
If you are moving into a boss role in the same organization, your relationships will change. They won’t be better or worse, just different.
Be prepared to learn! Sarah references and recommends the book, “The First 90 Days,” by Michael D. Watkins. Check it out if you are a new leader.
Feeling like you don’t “DO” anything anymore is completely normal
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Episode 5: Use Your Egg Noggin!
It's December and for a lot of people, that means an office holiday party to look forward to. Or not.
In this episode, we get into the good, the bad, and the ugly of the office holiday party. We share real life examples of office party jerks and we give you our top tips & takeaways to avoid being "that" person at your office holiday party (and any other office function). Hint: it is not okay to kick your CEO in the butt while he is standing at a urinal.
Episode 4: We. Are. At. Work.
#metoo and #timesup have empowered people to share their experiences and situations and have amplified the need for employers to examine their workplaces to ensure that they are fair and respectful. In this episode, we share stories of workplace misconduct that we’ve come across, common reactions, and what you can do if you experience it or see it. We also talk about what you can do if you think you may have done something that could be perceived as bullying or harassment. This episode will be of interest to anyone who works with other people regardless of your role in the company.
If you are made to feel uncomfortable, don’t do nothing. Do something.
There is a wide spectrum of behaviours that can be considered inappropriate. Navigating language and behaviours that historically may have been acceptable or funny can be hard.
Don’t overthink your behaviour. Show up as a decent human being.
***The title of this episode is a nod to La Donna who shares her story on the podcast, This American Life
Episode 3: You Should NO Better
Consider this: every time you say ‘yes’ to something, what are you saying ‘no’ to? Why is saying ‘no’ so hard for some of us? How can you say no without coming across as a jerk, feeling guilty, disappointing someone, or all of the above? This week is all about the importance of setting boundaries and how knowing what is important to you directly impacts your personal and professional development. We share personal examples of things we struggle to say ‘no’ to, but we also talk about what you should consider saying ‘yes’ to. In this episode, we reference, “Lean In,” by Sheryl Sandberg and, “Year of Yes,” by Shonda Rhimes; two powerful reminders of reason to say ‘yes’ and knowing your boundaries.
This podcast will be of interest to anyone new in their career as well as anyone looking to move into a more senior or management role.
Episode 2: When The Talking Gets Tough
Have you ever avoided a tough conversation at work? Although we don’t have a magic solution or an online form that will solve your problem for you (yes, we’ve been asked for those!), there are ways to have tough conversations without coming across as a jerk. This episode is all about the importance of having those tough conversations, as hard as they may seem. We discuss tough topics for managers and employees, common reasons why people avoid having tough conversations, and how you can begin building your confidence and get better at it. In this episode, Tara refers to the program, “Fierce Conversations,” which is all about the importance of having effective conversations. Tough conversations are hard but with courage and practice, they will get easier!
This episode is for managers (new and experienced) who may be faced with a difficult workplace situation. It’s also a great listen for employees who may want to bring up a tough topic or who want to gain some insight into their manager’s perspective.
Episode 1: You Should Know Better
Have you ever felt like your co-worker needed a lesson in Adulting? When it comes to kitchen etiquette, respect for people’s time, and personal hygiene, shouldn’t we all just know better by now? In this episode, we talk about relatable, annoying, and jerky behaviours that we’d love to see eradicated from our workplaces. We explore some classic examples as well as how managers can and should handle them (without acting like jerks, themselves).
This episode is for anyone who works with other people (hopefully you’re not that jerk at work) as well as anyone who manages people.